Casino Poker for Beginners: Make a Mistake? Three Ways to Respond
Ed. note: For those who might have missed it before, we're reprising Robert Woolley's series of articles for poker players who are new to live poker. The series is great for newcomers, and likely useful as well to those with experience playing in casinos and poker rooms.
In my most recent "Casino Poker for Beginners" article, I told you about how using certain words (e.g., "call," "raise," "all in") can commit you to actions that you neither intended nor wanted to make. But that is actually just one specific type of a common phenomenon in poker — namely, player errors.
The fact is, all humans make mistakes in everything they do, and poker is no exception. And just like in your life away from the tables, how you respond to mistakes in poker has a lot to do with how well you get along.
The target readership for this series of articles are people who have played poker online or in home games, but not in a casino. Those venues are very different.
In a home game, you probably know everybody pretty well, and there's likely some good-natured ribbing and trash-talking when somebody screws up, but no serious humiliation. It's even better when playing poker online — often nobody will even know you made a mistake, and when they do, they don't know who you are. You can blip off to another table instantly and pretend it never happened.
A casino poker room, however, is a public place filled with strangers. Nobody likes to be seen doing something stupid in such a setting. But it's inevitable that you will. Sooner or later everybody makes some sort of bone-headed mistake that is obvious to all the other players. What should you do about it? I think it's best to have thought about this in advance so that you have a plan ready for how to react.
Let's consider three examples, each demonstrating a different way to handle making a mistake at the table.
Response #1: Feeling Shame
First, I'll tell a story on myself. In a small tournament very early in my poker career I called off all of my chips with nothing — not even a pair. Note that I wasn't making an aggressive but ill-timed bluff. No. I was calling an all-in bet. With nothing. I had misread my hand.
My opponent showed his cards, and I exuberantly turned mine over to show him that my straight had him beat. It was only then that I realized that my "straight" had a gap in the middle of it. All my chips went across the table, and I was out of the tournament.
My reaction? I stood up, turned, and walked toward the exit as quickly as I could, without saying a word to anybody. I was so embarrassed that I thought I could never show my face in that poker room again. I did, though, and if anybody remembered me and my gaffe, they were too polite to remind me about it.
So that's one way to handle the situation. Not the best, I'll admit, but not the worst, either.
Response #2: Casting Blame
The second example is a hand I witnessed but in which I was not involved. Player A had been betting, with Player B calling him down. The final board was . Player A bet $40 on the river. Player B thought for a while, with eight red ($5) chips already counted out in his hand, then finally put the small stack of chips down on the table well past the betting line — a clear call. (Not all poker rooms use betting lines to define the geography of a legal bet, but this one did.)
Player B then did something unusual, but perfectly legal: he showed his cards first, rather than waiting for his opponent to reveal his hand. He had , giving him two pair (aces and fours).
Player A had somehow missed Player B's chips being put out, and mistakenly thought that Player B was folding and showing his cards in surrender, even though Player B's cards were still lying face-up on the table. Player A then flashed one of his cards to the table — a — then slid both of his cards face-down to the dealer, who stuffed them into the muck. The dealer started pushing the pot to Player B.
At this point, Player A suddenly became agitated, saying that the pot was his. This was confusing to the rest of us, because it sure looked like he had quietly acknowledged having a losing hand and thrown it away. But he insisted that he had had pocket treys for a full house — I think he was probably being truthful about that — and that Player B had folded.
He tried to scoop the pot away from the dealer, who sharply rebuked him. Then he tried to fish his cards out of the muck pile. The dealer covered the pot with one hand and the muck with the other, and desperately called for the floor.
The floor made the only ruling possible: the pot went to Player B, who had the only live hand and was the only player who had tabled his cards (i.e., put them face-up on the table for all to see).
Player A blamed everybody but himself. He said Player B was shooting an angle by not verbalizing his call. He said it was the dealer's fault for not announcing the call. He accused the floor of favoring Player B, who was a regular in the room. He insisted that obviously he had the best hand, because why else would he make a big bet on the river?
In short, he compounded his mistake by being an ass, when the error was entirely, 100 percent his own damn fault.
Response #3: Getting On With the Game
The last story is an incident I saw happen about a decade ago. One player at the table had never played poker in a casino before. He was faced with an $80 raise. He wanted to see what his stack would look like if he called the bet and lost, so he counted out the $80 and set those chips down in front of his cards, then looked at what was left, and said, "Nope, I don't think I can call you."
But, of course, the act of putting the chips out constituted a call, and the dealer gently informed him that he had already called and couldn't take it back.
It was obviously an honest mistake. The guy just said, "Okay, I'm sorry, I didn't know. My fault. Do what you have to do." He lost the hand, bought more chips, and said, "Well, that's one way to learn what the rules are," and laughed at himself.
I'm not particularly proud of the way I handled misreading my hand way back when. I wish I'd had the humor and grace shown by the man in my last story. But at least I didn't stoop to the level of the guy in the second story, making an even bigger fool of myself by lashing out at people who had done nothing wrong.
When you make your first public mistake at the poker table — and trust me, you will! — how are you going to handle the embarrassment? Get mad and make a big scene? Slink off in humiliation? Or acknowledge your error, laugh at yourself, learn the lesson, and move on to the next hand?
Do I really need to spell out which option I hope you'll choose?
Robert Woolley lives in Asheville, NC. He spent several years in Las Vegas and chronicled his life in poker on the "Poker Grump" blog.
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In this Series
- 1 Casino Poker for Beginners: Taking a Seat in Your First Game
- 2 Casino Poker for Beginners: How to Keep or Change Seats in a Cash Game
- 3 Casino Poker for Beginners: Playing Your First Round
- 4 Casino Poker for Beginners: Rules and Etiquette Regarding Poker Chips
- 5 Casino Poker for Beginners: How to Handle Chips When Betting & Raising
- 6 Casino Poker for Beginners: Chip Rules, Chip Tricks, Collecting & More
- 7 Casino Poker for Beginners: The Deal With the Dealer Button
- 8 Casino Poker for Beginners: Missed Blinds, Seat Change & Other Buttons
- 9 Casino Poker for Beginners: Kill & Half-Kill Buttons, Overs and More
- 10 Casino Poker for Beginners: Lammers, Rebuy Buttons, Add-Ons and More
- 11 Casino Poker for Beginners: Keep Your Hole Cards Hidden
- 12 Casino Poker for Beginners: Marked Cards, Automatic Shufflers & More
- 13 Casino Poker for Beginners: Exposed Cards, Fouled Decks & Other Oddities
- 14 Casino Poker for Beginners: What It Means to 'Protect Your Hand'
- 15 Casino Poker for Beginners: When to Keep Your Cards Covered
- 16 Casino Poker for Beginners: Etiquette When Sharing Space at the Table
- 17 Casino Poker for Beginners: Bonuses, Jackpots, Drawings & Other Promos
- 18 Casino Poker for Beginners: Talking 'Table Stakes'
- 19 Casino Poker for Beginners: The One Thing You Can't Discuss at the Table
- 20 Casino Poker for Beginners: Be Careful Whenever Using 'Action' Words
- 21 Casino Poker for Beginners: Make a Mistake? Three Ways to Respond
- 22 Casino Poker for Beginners: Get to Know Poker Room Personnel, Part 1
- 23 Casino Poker for Beginners: Get to Know Poker Room Personnel, Part 2
- 24 Casino Poker for Beginners: A Few Unusual House Rules
- 25 Casino Poker for Beginners: Chopping Blinds - Etiquette & Expectations
- 26 Casino Poker for Beginners: Don't Do This When Playing With a Friend